Stress around the holidays

The end of December brings thoughts of past holidays for many people. Are these memories of laughter, celebrations, and pleasant times with loved ones? Or are they memories of stress, hurt feelings, and disappointment? For many, there are both positive and negative memories, the ultimate dialectic. How to cope?

I like to take my cue from the natural world around us. Winter brings extra time for rest. As the cold settles (at least for those of us in New England!) and a blanket of snow covers the ground, nature takes a breath and rests. The trees sleep, animals burrow, and many of us flee inside to stay cozy. Nature reminds us that each season has a purpose, and winter is for bringing restoration.

How can you take time to rest before, during, or even after the holidays have passed? Are there opportunities to find extra space to take care of and move your body, make that green smoothie, or go to bed an hour early? Can you stop the holiday hustle and push to do everything, and instead focus on the traditions that bring you joy? Or, can you flip the page of the calendar and schedule something after the holidays to look forward to—a massage, breakfast with a friend, or even a day off just to yourself? And even more challenging, can you set the boundaries you need to in order to allow joy for the holidays as opposed to more stress?

For me, this means pulling out the heated blanket, finding a good book, and taking an hour to snuggle on the couch; making time to spend an hour on my yoga mat or walk the dog

bundled up (with the full-length parka, hat, scarf, and mittens—even though I look ridiculous!); and being sure to limit the number of my social functions to just enough to show off my ugly Christmas sweaters, while still not overtaxing my people-battery. And sometimes, it means not going to a family function or spending time with people who take more energy from me than they give.

Let this be the permission you might need to take extra care of yourself during this holiday season. Skip the stressful social event and do what recharges you. Allow the stillness of winter to be the cue to find quiet space of your own. Do what makes you happy and take care of yourself this year. Give the gift to yourself. Happy Holidays.